Mother of the Groom wants to sleep over!
I need some serious advice. My future husband's mother lives in another country and will be traveling for the wedding. She is arriving a 4 days in advance and pretty much assumed that she could stay with us (we have a small 2 bedroom apartment with a double bed in the spare room). We said it was okay for the first two nights, but that on the Friday night before the wedding and on the Saturday night, she would need to make alternative arrangements. She accepted this suggested for the Saturday night of the wedding, but absolutely went ballistic about staying in a hotel on the Friday night.
The night before the wedding (the Friday night) I am going to stay at my childhood home with my bridesmaids and my FH planned on having his 2 groomsmen (we have a small wedding party) stay over at our place. If is mother is there, this cannot happen. The men all wanted to get ready together but that's pretty much not possible if my future mother-in-law has taken over our spare room. On top of this, my brother is one of the groomsman and he's coming from out of town too - so should we make him find alternative arrangements and choose the mother over the brother?
I'm totally at a loss for what to do. I'm not sure what tradition is and I'm not sure who is expected to stay where. On top of everything else, my parents are paying for the ENTIRE wedding and we've received no offer of assistance from my FH's family. When my FH asked his mother to stay in a hotel on Friday night, she exploded in a rash text message about abandoning his family and choosing my family over hers (he's lived in my country for 8 years and we've only been dating for 5, so she can't really blame me for that one).