Struggles with Bridesmaid...
I really need some advice on how to deal with an bit of an issue I am having with one of my bridesmaids. She has been a friend for a long time, and although we don't really see each other often, we got on like sisters...until I got engaged and asked her to be a bridesmaid. At first she was really pleased for me, but now I'm not sure.
I arranged lunch for the bridesmaids to meet, and she turned up 30 mins late, because she was with another friend.
Since then she has turned her nose up at the dresses, moaning at all suggestions. We agreed on one and I spent a week online trying to find a cheap version, and got it for half the budget she gave me (no help from her on the bargain hunting!). Still moaned it was a lot of money (I paid p&p from china to keep her happy, which was £80) and hasn't even tried it on, despite invitations to come over and I've had it for 3 months now, so it best fit!
The shoes another bridesmaid found look too uncomfortable, based on a photo I sent her (they're 3 inch heels, and I have already said they only have to be worn for ceremony and photos)
She wants to wear dark make up (not appropriate for a summer wedding) and has told me she will wear it in the evening anyway, despite what I say.
I booked the hen do flights today, and told everyone in June I was thinking of spain, and we would need to book the flights in sept when they were released, she has kicked off saying I haven't given her enough time. She keeps telling me she is doing me a favour by coming...?!
I ddon't know what to do...she gets very defensive when I try to talk to her about it, and projects it back on to me, and I then feel more stressed and it's really getting to me. She hasn't offered any help, and seems completely disinterested.
Any suggestions on how to approach?