Considering calling it off
My wedding is in 3 months time and I'm at my lowest point at the moment.
As a quick background, my parents are paying roughly half of the wedding which is money they offered and insisted to contribute and for which we are very grateful. And of course with what they are contributing towards, we have consulted them i.e. venue, food etc.
My parents see this as them paying for an opinion on absolutely everything. They want to be consulted on everything even down to the very small things. This is both of them as well and not just my Mum.
We essentially require their approval on every decision to be made and the impression we have is that this is their day for us - we just feature.
Anyway, I ordered a sample wedding invitation, had spent hours on the style and the wording. My parents insisted that the invite be in the traditional format of them inviting people, which isn't what we would have had but accepted and did it that way.
Our invites don't have a space whereby you write in people's names - it's just a generic invite which we will send to people and our RSVP has a space for the guests to write their name when RSVPing. This is because I personally don't like both handwritten and typed text and just personally preferred it that way.
We also didn't want the invite to come across too formal and so, as a bit of light heartedness, added additional tick boxes on the RSVP e.g. "Resentfully attend", "enthusiastically decline" just as a bit of fun and a reflection of our humour.
The invite was delivered and we were both very happy with it. As a courtesy, I sent pictures to my parents to look at and said I'd be ordering soon and hoped they liked it.
They replied saying as it's coming from them, they want it simple and formal and the guests names to be handwritten and it's coming from them and so they want it this way - even though we originally weren't going to have the invite coming from them. I said that I would compromise and have the guests names included but I'll have them typed up but that everything else will be the same because we were really pleased. I did say that I felt they were controlling every aspect they could and nothing we do is ever good enough for them.
My dad then texts me to say that our RSVP wording is juvenile and belitting and something he'd expect from a teenager and said that's not what it's going to say on their invites and then went on to say that if that's what I want, then I can find someone else to walk me down the aisle.
I burst into tears at this point and I haven't responded. They clearly think I'm being a brat but all I want is for the day to be about my future hubby and I and for our personalities to be portrayed. This isn't the first time my Dad particualry has said things like this. a few months ago he said he wouldn't come if we invited a couple of people (whom he had no reason to oppose them coming at all - just made the numbers higher).
We also are keeping our wedding cake a secret and he demanded i tell him what it is. I told him I'm not and he questioned why it's a secret and said it clearly must be offensive if we're keeping it a surprise. Why would we choose an offesnive cake for our wedding!? I said no and that we just want an element of surprise. He didn't accept that.
Anyway, this is probably really waffly and not communicated correctly at all but I don't know what to do. I feel like if I bow down, I'll be bowing down to everything. I want to put my foot down but I can't respond to such a nasty text message.
I'm seriously considering just calling the whole thing off. W