Bridesmaid Drama.. Help please..
I am looking for some advice on what you would do in my situation.
So I am officially getting married in two weeks time (legally in Scotland) but our blessing is in spain spring next year. I asked my 3 best friends back in January (9 months ago) to be my bridesmaids, they all said yes. unfortunately all live 100 miles away from me as I moved away. I found in may one of my bridesmaids fell pregnant, so she pulled out. my second bridesmaid also fell pregnant and pulled out in july, so I was left with my childhood best friend.
my issue was my childhood bestfriend wasn't taking any interest in the wedding ie - couldn't be bothered meeting me to try on bridesmaid dresses in shops in her area or online, so I asked one of my friends from university to also be a bridesmaid as I was panicking that my childhood friend bridesmaid wasn't helping at all. they both met once and got on really well so I thought I was on to a winner. I then found out that I wasn't going to be getting a hennie (even a lunch) as my childhood friend couldn't afford it. so I then leant her the money so she could travel the 100 miles, I paid for her hotel etc just so I could have a hennie. at the hennie my two bridesmaids didn't communicate, they fell out over little things and are now not speaking. on top of that my childhood friends partner is now refusing to come to spain after rsvp'ing and she doesn't want to travel alone. (my dad was paying her dress, shoes, drinks and meal on the day and flights)
I am in such a dilemma.. do I ask her to step down as bridesmaid to avoid any more drama and possibly lose my childhood bestfriend or do I keep her as my bridesmaid and hope that she and my other uni friend get on and make the most of it on my special day (but as its in spain will she be on her own for the few days before? and be sad?) I don't want an unhappy bridesmaid as I want it to be a great time for us all. PS my wedding is only 20 people. she says she doesn't have the money for spain anymore but by the time the wedding comes she has known for well over a year to save. (but yet I know she wants to go to America with her partner next year but my wedding was organised first) am I being selfish?
Help.. I am at my wits end.. Thanks x