My fiancée's mum has dementia - do we rush our wedding planning?
I could really do with some independent advice.
My fiancée lost his dad last year and his mum has been suffering from dementia for the last 3 years. She still knows who we are but suffers from paranoia and is deteriorating rapidly. My fiancée is terrified at the prospect of not having either of his parents at his wedding.
To complicate matters my younger brother is getting married in June next year! We could rush to plan our wedding in 4-5 months and getting married before him - but as much as he is being supportive my brother is pretty gutted that we would do this as we are both hoping to get married in the same small Devon town with lots of family and friends overlapping. If we wait - the next available date for where I've always wanted to get married is April 2017, at which point I have no idea as to whether my fiancée's mum will know who we are. And is 4-5 months even achievable to plan a wedding?
There really are no good options but I'd love any advice. I've suggested having a small family blessing early next year with his mum but I still don't think that will make up for not having her their on our wedding day.
Sorry for the emotional download!