How do I get my groom interested?!
It's nearly 6 months to go before our wedding, and I should mainly be excited (if a little frazzled by all the planning!). The problem is, I've literally done the entire lot by myself so far. When we first got engaged I spent hours and hours researching wedding venues and arranging viewing appointments, and trawling through photographer's portfolios and enquiring about prices, etc. We've now booked our venue, photographer, DJ and a few other things, all because I've done all the legwork and found it all. I've done literally everything. This isn't because I'm a control freak at all - I would love it if he could show an interest in at least a tiny bit of it! But he hasn't, so I've done it all otherwise it won't get done.
He also doesn't seem to understand what a wedding involves (though most men usually don't, I think...). He thinks that all we need is food, alcohol and music. Granted, I agree that these are the most important things - at the end of the day we want a relaxed wedding where our guests can enjoy themselves. But I mentioned 'table decorations' to him the other day and he looked at me blankly, then said 'Why do you need table decorations?' The same with venue decorations.
We're on a bit of a budget for our wedding so I'm planning on doing a lot of DIY myself, which is fine as I'd rather do this anyway as I enjoy art and craft (not that I'm particularly good at it!) and I think it makes it more personal. I'm not going crazy and dreaming up a huge amount of decorations that will take months to arrange - I'm literally just talking about jam jars and ribbon and stuff like that. But I also want to include personal touches that incoporates things we like to reflect us as a couple, e.g. music, travel, etc. So it would be great if he could contribute to that rather than me just getting all my ideas from Pinterest.
I've already spent hours (days/months!) looking up ideas and searching for bargains online, and scouting around charity shops for things, in order to save us money. His initial response to wedding planning has been 'it's too early', but I've been doing my planning early in order to save us a bit of money. And besides, I don't want to do this all at the last minute - it'll be easier if we do things a bit at a time. I've said all this but he still doesn't get it.
He also doesn't really understand the importance of wearing a nice suit. He's not against wearing a suit at all, and he even mentioned that he'd like to wear a waistcoat, but he was originally thinking he'd just wear the one suit he's already got which he's had for 10 years, is too big, and he wears to every wedding/funeral/job interview. He sees nothing wrong with this, and I sound almost stupid suggesting he spend money on a brand new suit. I'm not saying he get a really expensive one - he could just get one from Topman or Debenhams or something. Or hire one. The same with his shoes - he has a black pair of shoes that he wears to work, so he thinks that's fine, though they're a bit scuffed. How can I get him to put a bit more effort into our wedding?!
He also doesn't understand why his best man should wear something similar to him. I think traditionally the groom and his merry men get their suits from the same place, don't they? Or at least in the same style/colour palette? Obviously they don't have to have the exact same suit, but he doesn't understand why I'm asking if his best man has a grey suit, and why on earth it would matter?!
I will reiterate that we want our wedding to be relaxed, fairly informal, and the most important thing to both of us is that everyone has fun. I really don't think that I'm asking too much to inject a bit of 'us' into our wedding, but he doesn't understand the point of it all! There is so much to organise and I just don't want to have to do it all myself, because th