Maid of Honour disaster...
Okay so long story short, I asked my best friend of 21 years to be my Maid of Honour for my wedding. She was the first friend I called when I got engaged, and she is the one person I can be 100% myself around! We have been friends since we were three years old and she was so excited for me when I told her my news. she was so happy when I asked her to be my maid of honour and excited to help with the planning. She came with me to find my dress and that's when she dropped the bombshell she was going travelling!
I was in July she told me, she said she would be spending a few months in Australia and then was going to travel her way home and she said she would be back in The UK by March/April time.
Last week she dropped another bombshell, she said she has decided to stay in Australia for a full year, and not moving back to the UK until September. My wedding is in August!!! Whilst she has promised she will fly back for the wedding (apparently she has asked about time off at her new job for the wedding but hasn't heard back yet..) she will only arrive around a week before my wedding day.
I feel completely gutted and have been in tears so much over this. She is my BEST FRIEND and the one person I thought would support me out of anyone. I am not angry about her travelling and living her life, that is not the problem here at all, the problem I have is she accepted the job of being my maid of honour without being honest and telling me she was going to be away for the whole lead up until my wedding. I did see on Facebook just before she was leaving (before she told me it would be a whole year) her mum wrote 'it's going to be a long year', so I am very sure she knew exactly how long she was going for, she just didnt tell me, and i don't know why? Because we tell eachother everything!
Now I pretty much have no maid of honour, she isn't going to be able to organise anything from Australia so one of my sisters is helping me with all the organisation, and organising my hen party (which my maid of honour won't even be able to come too! grr). My fiance feels as though she shouldn't be able to come back for a week before the wedding and claim the special title of maid of honour on the day, but my friend and I have been talking about being eachothers maid of honour for as long as I can remember and I would be heart broken for her not to be it.
I just don't know what to do, I feel so let down! Has anyone else had these problems? I just feel so sad and like it has affected our friendship x