Sister is doing my head in
hi everyone, I don't know if I'm after advice or just here to vent.
im getting married may 2017 and we are having a small wedding down in cornwall. My sister has recently had a baby so i spoke to her about my niece being a flower girl (she will be 1yrs old) and that I wouldn't have her as a bridesmaid as she will have her hands full with the baby and i will need her to walk her down the aisle for me anyway. My sister was fine with this at the time.
Since then she's opened up to a close family friend about being really upset that she's not a bridesmaid. I've got my 2 oldest school friends as BMs. Now as I didn't want her to be upset I asked her if she would be a witness for us so she will still be involved.... She said she would think about it.... Then on reflection I realised as she was going to be walking my niece down the aisle anyway she might as well be a bridesmaid too, but her priority will be her daughter and the other girls will be there to help me. Again shes being funny about it all.
Fastforward to last week. Me and my mum went dress shopping. Surprisingly I found my perfect wedding dress and me and my mum were buzzing. I decided to treat my mum to lunch as she had just purchased my dress for me. My sister was at my mums watching mums dogs and caring for her 7 week old. My mum phoned her and said we were going for lunch and my sister went nuts about not being invited. My mum told her to stop it and we would see her soon. When we got home sister was ignoring us then went in to this huge tantrum, shouting and crying and basically being a brat. I left. I was pretty pissed off she ruined the special day I had with my mum but what could I do.
Now a few days ago we were all at my mums. We were talking weddings and my sister started dictating that she "wasn't wearing this" and being very negative about the whole thing.
Once again i left as was so pissed off with her after I went my mum went mental at her telling her she's self centred and needs to realise it's not all about her for once my mum has said that she needs to consider whether her and her family want to be a part of the wedding as she's being so negative
My sister is self centred and doesn't see past herself. I just want her to be interested in the wedding but she's just had the past 18months being all about her as she got married last year then found out she was pregnant a few days after the wedding so it's been all about her.
I dont know know how much longer I can keep my mouth shut. I don't want to fall out with her as I don't want her to be a brat and stop me seeing my niece (I live and hour and a half away from my family so any time I get is precious)
just never thought it would would be my sister being a pain in the arse. Sorry it's long, just needed to vent lol