Bridezilla Makes Me Want To Cancel
Ok, so this is a long story, I'll try to keep it short. I am looking for some advice on how to discuss this with the bride... after the wedding.
The bride was one of my bridesmaids. Unbeknownst to me, the other bridesmaids hated her because she was rude, always disagreeing and then never paid back the MoH. She gave me a hard time about the shoes and the hair trial but otherwise there was very little to disagree about as I paid for everything (except the shoes, hair trial and mani/pedis) and allowed each bridesmaid to have a lot of choice. I picked the material/colour and the bridesmaids designed their own dresses (full length as it was formal). As long as they didn't choose the same neckline as me, I didn't care. They had full control and scheduled appointments for fittings individually on their time. I paid for hair and make-up the day of.
Now, I'm one of her bridesmaids. She asked me at my birthday party - and insisted I open her card in front of my guests. The only topic of conversation the rest of the time was her. I had reservations about what she would expect and I told her so at my party. Nevertheless, we plowed forward.
After 5 separate dress appointments, she finally chose the dress. Unlike with me, the bridesmaids had zero say and were expected to pay. The dress was over $400. Then, she asked me to do the makeup for free for all the bridesmaids. I had intended to do my own, but told her no for everyone else. She hired someone and I am not privy to the arrangements with the other bridesmaids and who is paying for what.
I had approached her about shoes and colour (because she's been so picky, even though she'd previously said we could wear whatever we wanted) and it's a good thing I did, because she wanted a specific colour, which I didn't have. So, I had to purchase a new pair of shoes, which she had to approve. After approving the shoes, the hair and the make-up, she called me with "concerns" about the shoes and the make-up. She didn't ask me to purchase yet another pair of shoes, but she strongly hinted she was displeased. As for the make-up, I have no idea what she wants anymore and will just stick to the original plan.
She then asked me to bring my make-up kit (not an easy feat!) to do her touch ups because she didn't hire her make-up artist, that's actually applying the make-up, for touch ups. I said no.
The icing on the cake is that she asked me to borrow fine jewelry. When I told her no and that I didn't have anything, she pushed the issue. Not only are we not that close, but I don't have what she wants. I told her she could go and get something costume at a local store and she scoffed and informed me (for about the thousandth time) that she "doesn't have the budget". She and her fiance both work very well-paying jobs. Why is it my responsibility to supplement? She didn't do that for me.
The wedding is quickly approaching and I am dreading it. There's so much more than the above. I just can't deal anymore. How do I tell her (after the wedding, obviously) that's she's been a dick and I'm pissed. Do I tell her? Do I just never speak to her again?