Nightmare with demanding in laws to be!
I am literally beside myself. I am not close to my h2b sister. I have been with my h2b for 9 years (childhood romance). And finally we are getting married. I have had his father who has not been nice to me over the years and neither that nice to my h2b - tell me " you are having his sister as bridesmaid arent you" he said it aggressively with me stuttering the word erm a millions times. he repeated to ask me the question again.. I carried on stuttering and he then went on to say "has he not spoken to you" again aggressively and again asked me this twice to which I replied abruptly wth the answrr NO both times. Turns out he has told my h2b to tell me to have his sister as my bridesmaid on 2 occasions and my h2b didn't mention anything to me as obviously he knew his father had absolutely no right in demanding such a thing. I feel completely threatend by his father and so does he if the truth be know and cannot bring himself to telL him to butt out. Me and h2b have been having the most awful arguments since. He completely understands that his father is completly wrong in demanding this but says "how can I tell them no". I have spoken to my mum who is worried that if I do say no to this that his parents will say they're not coming to the wedding. I have been very thoughtful about who I asked as my bridesmaids as to me this is so extremely important. I thought of it as who do I want there with me getting ready on the morning of my big day, in my photos and everything else and it's the people I love most. I feel completely forced into this situation and am on the verge of tears constantly. Why should I be forced into this? How dare he demand. But we are both too scared of the outcome of saying no. I have said to h2b I will ask her to be a witness to which he replied "no they want her to be bridesmaid" I am very strong willed but the front of this man to put something like this on us is utterly shocking. His mother is clearly also behind this but has cleverly clearly passed this onto his father as it will be so obvious that she is an interfering mother in law. Yet feels worse from the father as he is so aggressive. H2b's sister is annoying the life out of us.. Constabtly asking to go on double dates etc.. Which the parents also try to force upon us. I'm literally at breaking point with this family. Please Please someone help me with some advice!!