Don't know what to do!
Ok, we're just less than 2 weeks away from our wedding. We sent invites out in January asking that our wedding be a child free celebration- I have a very small family, and the only person this affected in my family was the one cousin I'm close enough to invite. She was fine with it. H2B has a step-niece and a nephew. We don't see all that much of them (we live in a different country- ish, it's a plane or boat to visit), and we promised we'd see them the day before and at a family bbq the day after the wedding.
All was quiet until tonight, in a catch up with his mum, H2B becomes aware that they're planning on bringing the kids- he explains our reasoning again, and they end the conversation on good terms.. He then gets a text from his dad saying he'll never forgive him, they won't come if their grandkids aren't there and he hopes we enjoy the day.
obviously we're both devastated that it's come to this, with no time at all before what's meant to be a happy day- I honestly want to cancel the whole thing, and if it weren't for the money we've spent (and our guests on flights and hotels) I think we'd go on our honeymoon as planned and tie the knot there just us 2. I don't see how we move forward- he cannot not have his family there, and if we give in there surely will be resentment on both sides anyway!
We genuinely don't know what to say to either his brother or dad without making the situation worse- even if we were to give in and invite the kids (after we've confirmed and paid for food, done the seating plan, etc etc etc) I feel like we should still tell them how we feel about being forced into this- is this just unnecessarily winding everyone up further though?!
I don't see right now how we can push everything to one side and enjoy ourselves- we won't see any of them until the night before either so can't sit down and hash it all out
To make matters worse, I'm working away all week so we can't even deal with this together properly, I don't know what to do!