I'm going to try and trim this story down a bit so I don't bore you too much. My fiancé and I got engaged last summer and our wedding is next July. Straight after the proposal I asked 3 of my best friends to be my bridesmaids, pretty much on the same phonecall in which I told them I was engaged. Looking back, I wish I had taken my time and really thought about my decision. Whilst the 3 seemed to be excited for me, on the call to my MOH she complained that she couldn't believe I was engaged before her and the other two were of similar conversations. I let it go over my head and paid no attention.
Fast forward to my engagement drinks, and the 3 turn up 3 hours late, my MOH was ridiculously drunk as was one other BM. their behaviour was commented on by my other friends and some family members.
Over the space of the last year my friendship with all 3 has completely broken down, and I'm now down 3 bridesmaids And 3 best friends. My mother and my future mother in law have stressed the importance of having a BM with me on the day of my wedding. But I feel like it's once bitten, twice as shy, and I'm really struggling with who to ask, and whether whoever I ask will feel second best.
I have two other close friends, who have supported me with what's happened between me and the other girls. one is getting married this year and the other has just been asked to be MOH at her other friends wedding in 2018. It sounds silly but I part of me doesn't want to ask friend 1 just now in case it takes away from her wedding and part of me isnt sure whether to ask friend 2 as shes already someone else's MOH. Does that sound silly? Does anyone have any advice?