Poor hen do response and feeling let down by friends
Hi fellow brides,
I wouldn't usually use a forum, but really feel like I need some advice/support on this issue and since it is about my friends I can't really talk to them! It would be great to hear if anyone has experienced the same.
I'm feeling really let down by some of my friends as they've said no to coming on my hen do. I'm worried I'm going to sound selfish or self-centred, but I really thought more of them would of said yes.
I'm one of the last of my friends to marry, therefore I have spent a lot on attending hen do's and weddings, therefore feeling a little resentful friends aren't doing the same in return...I feel so uncomfortable writing that down, but that's how I feel - does that make me a bad person?!
The main reasons are finances and potential pregnancies. Both reasons I completely understand, but can't help thinking I'm giving people 11 months notice to save for it.
I moved away from my home town a few years ago, therefore I have two sets of friends who live very far apart from each other, so a local hen do was out of the question as one group of friends would of had to pay more. So choosing somewhere different seemed fairer. The hen do is in Europe, but me and my maid of honour compared this to some UK hen do's and it worked out roughly the same price or cheaper in some cases, so thought might as well go abroad....guaranteed better weather!
It's made me really doubt some of my friendships and also made me feel really bad about myself, I've spent a lot of time trying to work out if I've upset some of these people.
Any advice on how to deal with this or just to hear someone has experienced something similar would be great!