Very upset over engagement ring - nowhere else to confide :-(
Hi Everyone, I'm feeling very upset and have no one I can trust enough to talk to about this. I understand I will sound like a spoilt brat but I can't seem to shake this off.
When OH and I decided to get married we agreed to have a budget wedding and not spend silly money on a ring - We agree round about £600. I had been very busy planning the wedding and had an idea of what I wanted which was a princess cut diamond solitaire. I showed him the sort of ring and said I trusted him to choose it. I really wish I hadn't done that. He went to the most expensive jewellery shop in town and tried his best to get the ring I wanted but the diamond is only 0.10 of a carat and I had envisioned something round about 1/3 of a carat. I saw the receipt and it was nearly £700 as they had to do a slight adjustment.
This was early last year and we married in February 2015. He is a great man and he loves me a lot but it really upsets me because I feel I could have had the size I'd visualised if he hadn't have gone to such an expensive place. I've been looking on line and for the ring I have you can get one just the same for less than £150! I feel he has been ripped off.
It's not even as if we had the experience of going in there together and choosing and enjoying the plush environment - I've never set foot in the place but feel I am paying every day for the privilege of having and overpriced ring from there.
It is very much my fault as I should have known he would do the traditional thing and not go hunting on line for bargains. When I was showing everyone the ring when we first got engaged I felt embarrassed as they kept peering I closer to see it because it's so small.
I would actually have rather had a second-hand one the size I wanted.
By the way, I am very happy with the cost of the ring and would NOT have wanted him to pay any more but if I'm honest it upsets me that people may be looking at it and thinking how tiny it is and he must be a cheapskate who doesn't think that much of me! I just cuts really deep. Then I see other women out with bigger sparklers and I think 'that probably cost less than mine!' I had ordered a 2mm wedding ring and it looks nice on it's own but not with the ring so last night I told my husband I would like a much skinnier band as I think it would look more balanced with the ring. He was perfectly ok and said it's just a ring, it's no big deal.
I really think I will be happier when I have the skinnier ring as it won't dwarf the diamond so much. It DOES look pretty and dainty but I can't help feeling cheated! Please tell me what you think?