Friend ditched my hen do but was out at the same place that day
looking for some advice and help. Not sure if I am over reaction or not. I had planned hen do for a couple of months and decided to do it at Pride weekend where I live. It was fairly laid back, dinner on Friday somewhere local for people who didn't want a wild night out then Pride on Saturday with no firm plans on Sunday as we weren't sure we would feel up to anything after a day of drinking. This was mainly so my heavily pregnant friend and those with kids could choose when they wanted to come and how long for.
One of my friends told me a few days before she had just found out her cousin was coming but that I shouldn't worry as she would meet him for a bit and wouldn't ditch once we were there. Anyway, she did. She collected her ticket from me the night before then on Saturday missed breakfast at my bridesmaids house, missed the cake, the games that she had made an effort to organise. Then we got to pride, she didn't come and watch the parade with but came to meet us hours later in a bar. She brought her cousin, didn't speak to us much then left. Later we ended up in the same bar as her. She messaged me to say she was downstairs and I said we had a seat upstairs due to my pregnant friend. She didn't bother to come up and say hi and I didn't see her for the rest of the day. I messaged her to say we were heading back for food and she should come. She told me she was staying and that's the last I heard from her. Literally nothing until she messaged me on Sunday saying she was heading back to pride.
I am really upset. She doesn't seem to think she has done anything particularly wrong. She has apologised but the same time said she didn't hear from me on Sunday and some of my other friends only made one day and that she had told me she would need to spend some time with her cousin. Now I don't want to sound like a diva but her cousin will probably come to pride again. I only plan to have one hen party.
I feel like if she can't make the effort to see me on my hen party, when she is in the same place, she doesn't deserve a wedding invite. I have already invited her though. Am I being unreasonable?
Sorry for the long post X
I had also made it clear her cousin was free to crash the hen party if he wanted. He also had friends with him so it wasn't that he had come alone and had no one to spend the day with.