Chief bridemaid dilemma :(
Hi guys i really need some advice on the dreaded chief bridesmaid subject.
A bit of back story my family live about half an hour away from where i live with h2b and our children so i dont see them that often due to work commitments and my mum is a bit pants at keeping in touch so i have relied heavily on my partners family for support so naturally we are close. Here's where it gets a bit complicated....
i used to go out with my h2b sister in laws brother hence how me and h2b met (very long story) i was very close to her and still am she is like my big sister and we have a lot in common. She is my first port of call if i have a problem, other than my dad, and she is super organised so i asked her to me chiefy. I also have a younger sister we arnt particulay close as we are very different personality wise but we have each others backs when it matters so i still wanted her to be involved so i asked her to be a witness for me she seemed a little suprised and said i had previously asked her to be cheif bit i dont remember so it must have been years ago. She said it was fine so i thought that was that.
I then get a phonecall from my mum stating my sister is upset and that i should make her cheif as it should be my sister and went on a massive rant about how i favour all my h2b family over them and they dont want to be left out. I have no idea what to do. I cant demote my soon to be sil as she has already started planning my hen do but i dont want to cause further friction with my family. Has anyone been in a similar postion or have any advice? Im having sleepless nights and im constanly worrying about it and its naking the whole wedding planning ubearble at the moment. To add futher fuel to the fire i turn 30 next year and my sil has planned something secreatly for that i only know as my mum mentioned something about it on the phonecall about how my sil had upset them already.
Its a complete mess i seriously considerd just cancelling the whole thing