Fall out with Mother & Sister in Law to Be
Just after some emotional support and advice but without sounding too negative...
My wedding is 5 months away and up to now I've been planning for my sister in law to be one of my two bridesmaids. Long story but I lost my phone last weekend and my mother in law offered to lend me her spare phone which was nice of her however I have come across some very bitchy messages between the two of them.
All i ever wanted was for them to both feel as involved as possible from the very start including shopping for my dress and the bridesmaids dresses which have all been ordered but have come to the conclusion that they wasn't bothered in any of this after all. The messages include words around 'let's make out to be ill on the day', 'I really can't be bothered to go but we will have to get on with it' and 'have you seen what she (me) has posted in the wedding whatsapp group'. I have always got on so well with my OH's family and love them so much so you can imagine I was very shocked to have seen these Messages.
I decided to confront them both and they have both taken the time to come and see me to talk things over. My MIL's excuses are around thinking that none of her family would be invited (not where she got this idea from as I certainly wouldn't let it happen) and SIL's excuses have been that she is overweight and feels uncomfortable dress shopping. I have expressed my upset and frustration by saying that they should have shared this with me rather than talking behind my back. They are both very apologetic but I feel that the trust has now been broken and things will not be the same for a long time.
What are your thoughts around keeping my SIL as a bridesmaid? Would you go ahead with it? Thanks all x