Vent, help and advice - moving in together
We got engaged before living together - yes we pretty much did during weekends and holidays, but last Friday we moved in together into a new house for us both.
So I've been living in my flat for 6 years, paying all the bills, budgeting and doing all the chores, and prior to that lived away during uni. Whilst HTB has had the pleasure of living with mum his whole life (he's 35!).
Whilst I love cooking, I tolerate cleaning and laundry tasks etc, my HTB seems to think it's acceptable for me to come home 3.5 hours after him, find him playing computer games/watching DVDs and make tea, wash up and get washing out (which means his shirt for work won't be dry in time for tomorrow).
On the couple of occassions he's asked to help he's come when the juggling of jobs is over and there's barely enough to keep me in the kitchen let alone both of us.
How can I tell him to pull his weight without starting a row? I'm very independent and used to coping on my own, and he's used to having his mum look after him completely, but she doesn't work at all, let alone full time like me.
I've come to bed to read - we don't have an aerial or wifi yet and repeats for Allo Allo are doing my head in - I don't think I've even been missed yet...