No "Hen Do" But Still Stess...
Quick bit of background. I'm getting married 7 hours away from where we live and our closest friends and family are traveling down for the wedding. Some are staying a few days, some the whole week.
i decided from day one I didn't want a proper hen do. My ideal hen do was a meal out down in Cornwall (where we're getting married)a few days before the wedding and then meeting up with the boys in the pub after.
My bridesmaids. So I messed up here. I always wanted my best friends but i have a sister. We aren't particularly close but shes my sister. due to our small wedding i didn't want to end up with loads of bridesmaids so spoke with my sister as my niece is being a flower girl and my sister is carrying her down the aisle. i asked if she would mind not being a "proper" bridesmaid but id buy her dress and pay for make up and hair etc. My sister was upset at first it we got there and she's super happy with her different dress and everything.
Now my stress! My bms (closest friends) really wanted to organise a hen for me. I told them I didn't want one but they werent having it. We settled on a quiet day out just us. When I mentioned inviting my sister they got really funny about it. When I challenged them they said what they have planned isn't baby friendly. I told them the baby wouldn't be coming and that was the end of it. Now that conversation was a few months ago and now I have a date etc. But there's no mention of my sister being involved. It's stressing me out as I don't want to exclude my sister but my friends are making it hard for me 😩 How would you handle this? xxx