Just doing a bit of soul searching here.
So, I have a bridesmaid, who I stupidly asked when I was drunk and felt like I really couldn't back out of it. So, over the last year and a half I've been panicking about the BM situation as she's not the most reliable person in the world.
I was out a couple of weeks ago and my sister (MoH) text me saying she doesn't know why this girl is even my BM. I was half cut at the time so didn't really get too worked up about it.
But, I've not seen her for over a year. Every time I try and arrange to meet her she agrees and then nothing comes of it or she's 'ill'. Were at the point of finalising details now and we have a block of rooms at our reception venue that we need to confirm so I sent her a message to see if she still wanted one, I mean, I couldn't tell you what's going on in her life other than what she puts on Facebook so I don't know if she has somewhere else to stay or if she's seeing someone. But, that being said, a very simple question. She read the message straight away but never replied.
So, pretty angry because we're liable for the cost of the rooms if people don't pay for them. I gave her a day, benefit of the doubt thing. But, still nothing. I plucked up the courage to ask my sister what's been going on, she said that she isn't responding to anything she sends her either. But she's apparently told my friend she didn't think she was a bridesmaid. She helped me choose the original dresses so a blatant lie.
Bearing in mind the girl hasn't even rsvp'd, or even acknowledged the invite I sent. I made the choice to cut her out. And I mean cut her out. She's not even on the guest list
I made the choice to ask my sister in law to be a bridesmaid quite late on, and I don't want to pass over the dress I already had or buy another one of those as I'm not really keen on them anymore so I'm wanting to get new ones. So, I'm just buying the two. But I'm scared to go into it because I don't want her to feel like a replacement.
Only now, nobody knows if she's actually turning up to the hen party that she's paid a little bit towards her share. So she could turn up... and she's started to like my wedding stuff on FB and Instagram. But, I mean, if she turns up to the hen, what the frick do I do/say as I feel like she's been reminded she's a bridesmaid when shes actually not now. So much stress caused by one girl. What would you guys do?