Father not attending my wedding
We booked our venue last year after 6 months of looking! We have paid deposit for venue and an extra £1000 off the total cost.
We have booked, photographer, make up and flowers and put deposits down on them all. On Thursday evening my mother decided to message me and tell me my father won't be coming to our wedding. We have never had a good relationship but I thought he may be able to get passed that for one day.
I've been very upset about the whole thing and we are now considering getting married abroad. The main reason we booked UK was because my father has never been abroad and would not fly anywhere.
I'm just really hurt by everything, my Dad has been abusive in he past and there are long standing issues but I didn't envisage having no one there to walk me down the aisle and my Dad not making a speech and having to explain to people why he isn't there. It's humiliating and feels like another way for my Dad to hurt me.
Has anyone else been through anything similar? A part of me wants to just move on and start booking a new wedding but I keep crying spontaneously when I think about the actual wedding day