Bridesmaid issues - help!
I don't know what to do about my maid of honour! So need a rant!!!
Our parents were friends when we were little, but as I had a normal upbringing her parents made a lot of money so she has a very different life to me now. She has millions in property and she doesnt get the idea of not being able to afford something, or making decisions based on money - it's hard to relate at times.
She got married six months ago (we got engaged a few months apart). Her wedding was really different to how mine will be and she's constantly comparing the two and commenting about why mine isnt like hers - why i'm not buying a dress like hers, why i'm not having similar flowers etc. Sometimes saying i probably cant afford what she had (we're paying for ours when her dad paid for hers) and sometimes acting like im being horrid by not copying her.
She has done nothing to help, my other maids planned the hen and have been so much more supportive. But when she got married I had to organise two hen dos for her! We have a fb message group and the other hens respond to messages/pics of wedding stuff and she never does. I also found out she's been horridly talking about the maids who organised my hen to others. Not ok!
When she got married i took so much time off work to go to everything (all dress shopping and fitting appointments apart from one, bridal shows etc.) and she hasnt come to anything and I had to argue with her about being there the day before the wedding so she could be there early on the wedding morning (it's a 2pm wedding and she thought shed turn up at 12ish to get ready - we have a hair dresser/make up artist coming).
She even complained shes missing a sailing competition the day of the wedding (shes an amateur competitor as a (rich) person hobby), and how inconvenient it is its on that day. She had two wedding parties on seperate weekends.
To top it off, my grandfather is very ill and i'm having to spend a lot of time caring for him and shes not once asked how im doing, just acts like im not spending enough time with her. I get texts saying we need to spend more time together and acting like im being difficult when im just going to hospital appointments (not that i think she knows as shes stopped asking hiw things are going).
The wedding is in three months and im so sick of being around someone so uncaring, especially after all the effort I went to for her wedding.
Would you ditch her after the ceremony?