Hen Party Cancelled.....
I am just looking to get this off of my chest and this seems like the best place to do it. My fiance and I have been engaged for 2 years. The wedding is in 2 months. For the last year my MOH has been a total nightmare for all of us to deal with. My bridesmaids and I thought we could suck it up and handle her, smile and nod, but the closer we get to the wedding the more outrageous she is to deal with.
My hen party was suppose to be the end of next month. On Friday one of my bridesmaids called me to let me know that my MOH has been making planning the hen party very difficult for them. I was told she was arguing every idea and suggestion, at the same time she had no suggestions or ideas of her own. Just that she thought everything the girls came up with was stupid, not going to work out, ect. So I decided to call the MOH myself and see if I could help out in any way to try and settle the situation. I called her on Sunday night. The conversation was very long and she was very angry/aggressive the entire time.
She insisted that I take over planning my own hen party because all the girls ideas were 'stupid' and the guests that SHE invited would not like their ideas. Yup, she had her own guest list of people that she wanted to invite. People who I am not too fond of. She told the bridesmaids that I knew all about her guest list and I was okay with it. She wanted me to host my own hen party at my house, demanding that I provide food for everyone and that the hen party go from 7pm - 2am. I explained that I only wanted the bridal party at the hen party and I had just wanted to go for dinner and have a few drinks. She told me that HER guests would never be okay with that. I told her that I did not want her guests there as I was unaware that they were invited. She told me that was too bad, they were all ready invited and were looking forward to being there.
The bridesmaids were feeling the same way as me and just wanted to go for dinner, keep it simple. My MOH basically tried to turn the hen party into an event for her being hosted by me. The bridesmaids and I decided to cancel the whole thing. I explained to the MOH that it was canceled because this was becoming an event for herself and I felt like it was not for me at all. None of us have heard from her since yesterday when I told her this.
I am extremely disappointed with my MOH. Her attitude with having to make our wedding and events all about her. She is acting so selfish and it seems to be getting worse. The bridesmaids and I feel it is too close to the wedding to replace her and yet none of us can really stand to be around her anymore. She just seems to be raining on the parade. We think we will probably go out to dinner for an evening without her to make up for the hen party lost but it is still a bit of a bummer.