Stressed and feeling very alone
I am getting very close to my wedding in France in September. There is so much left to do, added by the fact that we have to have a legal wedding next week in London. Despite the lists of things I need to do that keep running through my head, I don't mind it, I quite enjoy the idea of putting together a wedding my family and friends will enjoy.
What's really stressing me out is the lack of support I am getting from our families. Financially I am very lucky that my family helped us, but it pretty much stops at that. They all seem pretty resentful that they need to put in the effort of attending the legal ceremony and our wedding in France. What's hurtful is that I haven't asked them to do any planning, help me with any logistics and his family haven't paid for anything (not that that's a problem at all, we are lucky to be able to afford 50% of it ourselves and my parents paid for the rest).
We just thought they would want to celebrate the whole thing with us, but now it seems like we have asked too much (they are attending the london wedding for the legal ceremony and a lunch afterwards, and a weekend wedding in France).
In addition, my maid of honor is my sister and I get the feeling she thinks it's far from an honor. Again, I really haven't asked her to do much apart from turn up to 3 appointments that lasted an hour each (dress tailoring, make up trial and hair trial). She is always making comments that she thinks the wedding is too much of an 'event' because she prefers very small weddings, she doesn't like my engagement ring etc etc. For long periods of time I can't even get her to answer my whatsapp messages (sometimes weeks go by when she won't even answer if she's available to talk). But I do have to say she organized my hen party, which i really appreciate.
My mum, because her and my father paid for 50%, feels like she is entitled to call the shots on a lot of things. She has invited 50 of their friends who are coming (total wedding number is 130). Even then it was an absolute nightmare getting her to give me their addresses and to get them to RSVP or give me meal preferences. I have asked her again and again if she would like anything in particular for the wedding, and she has left everything to the month before but is now demanding we have certain music, that her friends are found accommodation (because she forgot to tell me 4 of them haven't found anything yet) etc. etc. She also keeps saying things like- please make sure everyone behaves themselves, which is crazy because all of my friends are extremely respectful and have never given her any basis to think otherwise. I am just a bit confused about what it is that she wants.
I don't want to sound ungrateful, it's just sometimes I feel incredibly alone. My fiance is really busy with work so he doesn't really help. He has sorted out his suit and that's about it. I am left to deal with everything, including his family's complaints and demands (like booking them hotels in london, booking them flights etc etc). They are all sweetness and light to him so his mind, everything is fine!
Anyway- rant over!