Friends keep comparing our budgets!
So me and H2B have been engaged since 2015 and finally this year we were in a financial position to start planning. We had already picked out most of what we wanted long ago, so has just been a case of paying for it.
A friend h2b's, S, is also engaged since last year and in the last few weeks has also started planning his wedding to his w2b R. They had started asking us about how our planning is going, what are doing etc which we had no issue sharing, they asked about prices which again, I had no problem telling them our budget roughly and how much some things were costing (thought they were after some ideas on pricing to help them figure out their own budget). H2B has since been told that S and R have been commenting to other friends that we are spening too much, how they are finding better deals than us etc etc which annoyed h2b. So, he asked S if this was true and he said that he had been talking about it because he thought we were going OTT.
Now...if we were having a 100k wedding for 500 people I would be inclined to agree. However, our budget is roughly 12k, we are having around 95 day guests, going to 110 in the evening. We have probably spent more on caterers than what we could have spent because really good food was important to us but overall I think we are being pretty sensible when it comes to money and what we are getting for it. S & R have said they are spending around 5-6k and that that is more than enough. They are having around 50 -60 day guests going to 100 in the evening, so really we are spending roughly the same, it's just they are having around half the guests (so with a budget half as much that makes sense), I think our weddings are going to be around the same 'level', just theirs will be more intimate. But even when h2b pointed this out, S just said that doesnt matter and we shouldn't have to spend that much.
We have stopped telling them anything to do with our budget obviously, though friends say they keep trying to bring it up when we arn't out with them all. I have told h2b that if they dont stop discussing it they will be uninvited as now im paranoid they are going to make comments on the day. But beyond cutting out wedding talk with them and asking them to stop discussing it with others, I dont know what else we can do?
Sorry if that all reads like a bit of a ramble, they have just really annoyed me and think im looking for reassurance we arnt going OTT (it's made me a bit paranoid and had me relooking at suppliers for things we've already booked thinking maybe im missing something and am spending too much), rather than any actual advise as I think we've done what we can for now