Feeling stressed out over wedding politics
I'm getting married next year and we have a guest list of about 125 So far. We can't have many children at our venue without hiring a crèche as stated in our contract so already we have an issue not allowing children as this further inflates the cost of an already expensive day.
We are also facing some emotional blackmail and arguments with our parents because we don't want to invite partners of people who we've never met. for my parents this is a problem because I don't want to invite my cousins partners because I don't know them, I don't even get on with my cousins really (they didn't even congratulate me on getting engaged and last time we were in the same room together some didn't even come over and speak to me) they all are in and out of relationships fairly often and we just feel that adding all their partners would add at least £1000 to the overall cost of our wedding. My parents are annoyed because all my friends will be bringing partners but this is because im actually friends with my friends partners or if a friend doesn't know anyone else. (Whereas my cousins all have each other). I'm being emotionally blackmailed by my parents saying they dont feel part of the day and that they can't talk to us (but actually that's not the case it's just we don't agree with them on everything they think should happen) - how do I get through this? Part me can't stand the drama and considers throwing money I don't really have so children and partners can come (adding 37 to our guest list) part of me just feels this isn't fair and i don't want to back down on something because this is supposed to be about us but it feels like it's becoming about everyone but us. What do I do?