This is a really tough one. I asked my sister to be bridesmaid this weekend. I have struggled to ask her as we aren't that close and very different, but she's my only sister and I know it would hurt her and my mum and dad if I didn't have her as my bridesmaid.
Her reaction initially was lovely, she seemed touched and happy. However within the space of half an hour (at dinner with my parents) she made curt comments about how she ‘wondered when I’d ask and that it was about time.
She then went onto say ‘well obviously I’ll get a date?’ Which shocked me. She is not seeing anyone at the moment and we are having a small reception with only 30 people, which means a lot of family won’t be going (which she knows). When I said we’d have to think about it because of the small numbers she was visibly put out and didn’t seem happy at all.
It seems to me she thinks she has some sort of right to be bridesmaid -surely it’s a honour to be asked? And that she she should automatically have a plus one- she’s not in a relationship now, she will know everyone there, it’s a lot of money to spend on a stranger and we have made our ceremony very small cutting out people we’d like to be there given a bigger budget.
Am I being selfish thinking her responsibilities on the day will keep her occupied anyway and she wouldn’t be able to attend to her date who wouldn’t know anyone?
Am I bridezilla? I hate this please help!