Really don’t like my fiancé’s best man....what can I do?
Hi ladies, my fiancé is having two best men. One I really like. He has always been lovely to me and I really enjoy his company. He is genuinely a really nice person however, the other I have never really gelled with despite me trying to make so much of an effort with him. For some reason he has never made much of an effort when I have seen him in person and most recently I have been trying to get his measurements for his hire suit but to no avail! He reads my messages and doesnt Reply. When I chase him for them (giving him plenty of time in between to reply by the way) he is very abrupt and blunt back. Today was the last straw and I had to tell him that I’m finding it really difficult to communicate with him and I don’t know why. Again, all I got was a short reply and he didn’t deny things being awkward!
So the problem I have now is that if someone makes me feel bad, why would I want them at my wedding. My fiancé hasn’t taken this on board and is trying to make it all about him saying it’s awkward for him and he is in the middle and how does he think I feel. I get that and he has a right to say he wants his best man at the wedding but I also feel, as my future husband he should be saying to his mate ‘look what’s the issue, you’re making my fiancé unhappy and I don’t want that, so much so she has now said she doesn’t want you at the wedding. Why are you making her feel this way’ BUT she doesn’t. I’m so frustrated that he can’t see what he is doing to me and short of saying his best man is not welcome at my wedding I don’t know what else to do. I don’t want to not look forward to my day because his friend will be there when it should be the happiest day of my life.
Has anyone else had anything similar or perhaps think they could give me some advice please?