Guest List Stress
So we are having 60 at our ceremony as that is the capacity of the room we want to get married in.
Of that 60 about 45 are family - so we are inviting roughly 15 friends. This is causing me all sorts of angst as for example I am inviting the people I am closest too out of certain groups of friends and I feel some people in the wider friendship group are going to end up feeling hurt.
We are inviting around another 90 to the evening reception and are having another drinks reception at the evening do, followed by cutting the cake, possibly a toast and then the first dance. We are also having a fairly decent buffet in the evening - hot food.
When we first set a date I did communicate / mention that it was mostly family during the day but I think some people have forgotten that and I am getting comments about getting new outfits etc from people I know are not invited all day.
How should I handle this? Please help! For example there is one girl I only plan to invite in the evening who I did a reading at her wedding. But that was years ago and I now rarely hear from her. Last year I had some health issues and she wasn’t in touch at all, yet this year she is talking about getting a new outfit etc.
invites will need to go out soon..,