Bride doesn’t want her bridesmaids to be pregnant
Just looking for people’s views here.
So me and my husband got married last year and always said we wanted to buy a house and enjoy a couple of holidays just us before trying for a baby. We’ve bought the house now and have a few more months of finishing the decorating and getting back to a stable position financially before we’d be ready to start trying so have said we probably will at some point in 2019.
In the meantime one of my best friends has got engaged and I’ve said yes to being her bridesmaid for October 2019. She was recently complaining to me that one of the other bridesmaids has said she might start trying for a baby herself in 2019 as she wouldn’t want her be heavily pregnant on her wedding day and doesn‘t see why she can’t wait until after the wedding/or why she agreed to be a bridesmaid if that was her plan.
So this has now worried me about my own plans and I’d be interested to hear if people think we should wait until my friend’s wedding has happened to try. We don’t know yet when we will feel the right time is and I know it may not happen for us quickly anyway but that’s part of the reason I don’t want to delay if we do feel ready, and part of me feels that trying for a baby is such a big and personal thing to the couple themselves that the timing shouldn’t be dictated by someone else.
If I were to get pregnant I would obviously be honest with the bride and understand if she didn’t want me to be a bridesmaid and cover any lost costs of the dress etc but I would be really sad to fall out with her over it and not be able to be part of her day!