First Christmas as a married couple...apart? :(
I recently got married and until now my husband and I have always spent Christmas apart (past 8 years). I would have been happy to alternate but he has always been dead against it and out of stubbornness (and fairness) I refused to spend Christmas with his family if he wouldn't come to mine. Our families are a good four drive + apart.
I feel stupid we didn't thrash this out before getting married but I assumed that when we got married we would spend Christmas together, whether that be alone or alternating between families. He has now said he won't come to my family's for Christmas this year or next and doesn't see it as a problem if we spend Christmas apart. I feel a little heartbroken he could feel like this. Every year I've missed him like crazy over Christmas and was so excited to spend this one together.
His view is that Christmas is for kids and he wants to watch his niece open her presents (we don't have any children). When I pushed him on this he said that surely my parents would be upset if I didn't spend Christmas with them.
I'm sure my parents would be sad if we moved to alternating families for Christmas but I think my mum would totally understand and would think it crazy and super weird if we don't have Christmas together.
We keep going round in circles when we talk about this and he won't compromise in any way. Us hosting isn't really an option (we're renovating the house so everything is in a state, my grandma is on her own now and is elderly so probably won't travel and my parents can't leave her.
I feel if we can't resolve this I see it as a big issue but he just doesn't see this as a problem.