First time poster. I chose my cousin to be my maid of honour and I'm now regretting it.
She is really stressing me out already and I'm not even getting married until 2020. I sent some ideas for BM dresses to my bridesmaids showing them my thinking. She has turned her nose up at everything and keeps sending me pictures of dresses which are awful and absolutely don't fit my theme or ideas. The other three really like my thinking so they're not an issue.
I am having a very simple, rural wedding and marrying in a church. Think English rose rather than red carpet glamorous. Everything she is sending is revealing, tight and very glamorous. She keeps fussing over make up artists, etc. when to be honest, I've only just booked my venue and don't have the time or capacity to think about it at this current time. I've also thought about each of their body types and found a style which works for all. Everything she is suggesting would be fine for her, but not for my other bridesmaids. I don't think that's fair. At all. When I raised this, she asked why she can't wear something different to the others. Is it really bad if I'm just blunt and say because it's my wedding and I want all my BMs in the same dress?
How can I tactfully remind her that this is mine and my fiancé's wedding (not hers) and that her job is to reduce my stress not add to it? Especially as I'm paying for the BM dresses, I feel like she should be more open minded and just try what I'm suggesting before rejecting I it. Am I being unreasonable?