Hi Katie, I’m sorry for your loss and I don’t think you are being OTT. I think what the other posters are trying to say is that your grief and your desire to stay in a hotel are perhaps separate issues? Assuming you have paid towards the hostel already, I see no reason why you can’t get a hotel room in addition to this if it doesn’t cost the other hens anything. I can understand the bride seeing this as a hassle but I can also understand the desire for your own space when dealing with feelings of grief. Approach the topic again in a more matter of fact manner and don’t expect any sympathy. As harsh as it sounds you’re not the brides priority, so her enjoying her hen do is not resting solely on what room you sleep in.