Can't decide whether to go for boudoir shoot

Hi there,

I could use some outside opinions on whether to have a boudoir shoot as my gift to my husband on our wedding day.

The pros of the boudoir shoot seem to me to be:

1) Hopefully, it'll fall into the category of something he likes rather than something he needs.

2) It'll completely surprise him - I'm pretty sure he'll never have heard of such a thing before.

3) It'll inject a bit of va-va-voom into our wedding night which we are spending in our own home, so it might up the romance levels even if the bedroom is still trashed from me getting ready in there earlier that day!

4) I'd quite enjoy the experience of celebrating my femininity during the photo shoot for my own sake, not just for his.

5) We've both identified artistic, quality photographs as one of the things we most want on our wedding day, and are prepared to pay for, so an artistic photographic gift will be in keeping with that.

But the potential drawbacks are...

1) It's expensive! There would be a big discrepancy between what he spends on me and what I spend on him. It won't bother me, 'cause I'll knowingly choose to do so, but it could run the risk of making him feel wrong-footed. Then again, he probably won't know how much it costs, so as long as he doesn't ask, maybe that won't matter too much.

2) What if he thinks it's tacky? I'm going on the assumption that he'll think it's sexy, but he's not into in-your-face sort of sexy, he prefers something quite subtle, so I'd be worried that he might misinterpret it as being somehow pornographic!

3) I feel I'd have to hide it from everyone else (which I'm not good at) - I think my mum and dad would have a fit if they knew I'd been photographed in my underwear!

4) I'm worried that rather than enjoying the experience, I might feel uncomfortable.

So with all that taken into account, what do you think I should do? The other option would be to play it safe and give him something like a pair of cufflinks, but I know he won't care about that at all. The boudoir shoot feels a bit risky, but also exciting. I can't help but keep remembering a time when I was getting dressed and I was stood in front of the wardrobe, ahem, not wearing a lot, and I was just thinking what to put on and must have been stood half hidden by the door and just off in my own head, thinking about what to wear, and he said it would have made a great photo. He couldn't see anything, but it was very feminine and there was the suggestion there, rather than it being blatant. The fact that he identified that himself makes me think he might really like a tasteful boudoir shot. Please help me make up my mind!



  • elw378elw378 Posts: 52
    I have booked with Mighty Aphrodite but maybe you should look at FYEO. I think they seem a little less risque.

    Maybe you should ring a few companies. I only rang MA but they were very helpful. It won't hurt to make some enquiries anyway. Good luck whatever you decide! x
  • sarahs1982sarahs1982 Posts: 441
    You should have a look at Nicola Grimshaw-Mitchell's website. Whilst her shoots are very sexy and you are of course in your undies she seems to concentrate on making your skin and face look beautiful and her pictures are classy rather than tacky!

    I had the same thoughts as you and in the end decided to go for it and booked in with Nicola - its a gift my other half would never expect - or ever even heard of - but I think he will love it. I was so nervous booking it but Nicola seems so lovely and I'm taking a friend with me for some support! My shoot isn't until July and I can't wait now! x.
  • I agree with ELW, I love Mighty Aphrodite and will be having my shoot with them.

    IMO, they are the least tacky of all the ones I looked, their images are tasteful, artistic and only risque if you want them to be! I love reading their client stories on their website too- you get a real idea of what everyone got from their shoot image Give them a call and have a chat, I can't wait to book my shoot next year!
  • mrsC2b2012mrsC2b2012 Posts: 734
    ive booked with photos look fab
  • I had my shoot last year with Nicola Grimshaw-Mitchell (My Boudoir) too. I can tell you whole-heartedly that its one of the best days out I had all year (the very best being my wedding of course!!). I was dead worried about being starkers but as soon as I got there and met Nicola I was reassured as she's so lovely and down-to-earth. Her photos are not rude at all, and do focus more on faces and hair and eyes for a classy film star look rather than a naughty feel like FYEO or MA - not that theres anything wrong with this, just wasnt what i wanted. My hub loved his photos and even wrote to Nicola to thank her for photographing me in such a classy elegant way.

    So although it is quite pricy, its a gift for both of you to treasure and Nicola is so good at what she does she's worth the bit extra - although she's still WAYYY cheaper than FYEO for what i got.
  • DuddersDudders Posts: 1,659 New bride
    Hmm I'm with you - I really quite like this idea, for both me and h2b. It's something I'd never thought about before but it's just so tempting.

    The only thing that really puts me off is the price. It just seems so expensive. Not sure what area you're in so what choices you have for who can do it. FYEO are in the town where I live, but to be honest they seem like a bit of a rip off. In fairness I felt that way about wedding photographers and we've ended up spending a fortune on that! Not sure if anyone has used Lens Appeal in Surrey. Their packages and print prices seem to be a lot less than the others I've seen but it would be nice to hear if anyone on here has used them. Also they are doing an offer at the minute for a second shoot half price. If I decide to go for it, I think I'll try and find someone on here who wants to do it too so we can both save some money! image
  • MrsHSmithMrsHSmith Posts: 101
    I had a shoot with Nicola Grimshaw on friday and got to see my pics online on Tuesday, they are amazing!

    I had such an amazing day and didnt feel awkward at all, im hoping my OH will love it.

    They are deifnitely far more classy than rude, slightly strange but my dad has actually seen my pics (i sent the link to my mum and she let him view them)and he said i looked beautiful and like a model, and he couldnt wait to walk me down the aisle and he was so proud of me image
  • I really want to do one!!

    I'm not shy in that sense..and think H2B will love it image

    When does everyone give them photos to their men??
  • MrsHSmithMrsHSmith Posts: 101
    Ill be hiding mine in the house and texting him the morning of the wedding to tell him where to look to find his pressie image

    Am looking forward to getting my full album.

    Ok am going to be brave - this is the link to my gallery online - will remove shortly


    Thankyou for your lovely comments image
  • DuddersDudders Posts: 1,659 New bride
    Mrs H - wow wow wow

    You look absolutely fab - the more of these I see the more I want to do it!

    Your hubby is a lucky man image
  • sarahs1982sarahs1982 Posts: 441
    Wow Kate your pictures are absolutely beautiful! You must be so made up with your photos you look amazing!!! x.
  • SpecialSundaeSpecialSundae Posts: 3,029
    Wow! Mrs H, you look fantastic!

    I'm planning to have a boudoir shoot but I've asked a friend who's done a photoshoot with me before if she'd do it with me.

    We also might have one together. We had a free photoshoot with some very established photographers a while back and they're looking for couples to do some trial joint boudoir shoots. Given that we're not terribly shy, we volunteered to be guinea pigs.

    I'd actually love to do a shoot with them as they've started doing a "peek a boo" shoot which is rather fab, but I'm not sure I can afford one (although they're pretty reasonably priced).
  • oh blast mrsHsmith2b!!! missed your link!!!! bet they're fabby though, not seen a bad one from Nicola yet!

    Its SOO sweet that you showed your Dad too, and his comments about them are just "awwwwwwww"

  • I also went to Nicola and highly recommend her. Dead friendly and photos were brilliant. The make-over (and hair) was amazing and took AGES not just a quick slap-on! I really though Nicola was worth the money as she's a really very good photographer and my package included the make-over, shoot and a gorgeous album that my hub just loves. Paid around £380 I think.

    Forget about being nervous too, you'll just get into it and have a great time!
  • MrsBarnabyMrsBarnaby Posts: 102
    Hi Amy, My view is that it is a perfect wedding present because it is personal, romantic and also sexy! I justified the cost because I knew he would love it, but it was also a bit of self-indugence for me. I really enjoyed the shoot - after all the hard work getting myself in top shape for the wedding, it was the perfect time to have some boudoir photos done. I went to Mighty Aphrodite like a lot of girls on here. They were brilliant - friendly and professional, I felt like I'd known them for years by the end of the photoshoot lol! Their pics are a bit sexier than most of the other boudoir studios, but there is no pressure to go nude - they start you off in your undies and then give you the choice as you go if you want to do topless and then naked pictures. You tell them what type of photos you want. They do the whole FYEO style as well as more boudoir type pics - and they are better value for money. They don't do really heavy make up - the make up I had was very natural, but that was what I wanted. The other thing I would recommend them for is that they let you see all your pictures in the studio as they are shooting, so they can check you are happy with them. I don't know any other company that does that. I can't recommend them enough!
  • OzziesWifeOzziesWife Posts: 129
    DO IT!

    Seriously I had exactly the same opinion as you and even regretted it for a little while after booking with FYEO, but after I had finished the shoot and before I even saw my photo's I knew it was the best decision I could have made.

    Yes they are expensive but the lighting and airbrusing, and poses they direct you in are so flattering. I really couldn't believe the results.

    I've seen some boudoir pics on here and have been really shocked at how pronographic they look, I've also seen some that look quite amateur. FYEO are not like that at all, they are so classy, not trashy in any way. Really beautiful, stunning artwork is how I'd describe it and worth every single penny.

  • LuJooLuJoo Posts: 4
    I'm not sure my H2B would be impressed if I presented him a load of half naked photos of me on the morning of my wedding. It would just make him think of the fact that someone else has seen me almost naked!
  • I say go for it! I was dithering over the cost as well, but am going to Nicola ( tomorrow. Yes, she's more expensive than others and 5.5 hours drive each way from mine, but her pics looked classier than some of the others. (I agree a lot look pornographic.)

    I'm giving the album to h2b on the wedding morning. I've given my bridesmaid strict instructions about giving it to the best man with neither of them looking at it!

    I have to admit - it's also a present to myself as I want to look back when I'm 70 and think "wow I used to look like that!"
  • Do it!!! I had my shoot yesterday and it was so much fun. I live in northern ireland so dont have access to the companies that you are talking about but the experience was fantastic. after the first 5 or 6 photos the nerves left me and i started to enjoy it. cant wait to see my photos in a couple of weeks time
  • SteampunkbrideSteampunkbride Posts: 1,748
    I've thought of doing a FYEO shoot. Their cheapest package seems to be £99 for one printed photo and a CD (I think) which I'd probably go for so that I have the one amazing photo. H2B would love it and I'd do it for myself as well, I'm currently losing weight after having our baby and would like to celebrate my new 'mum' body. I got a couple of stretchmarks on each hip but I quite like them, they remind me of my lovely baby bump. image
  • Like everyone has said.... Just DO IT!!. image

    I have been deliberating about this for such a long time. Mainly because of the cost and possible travel...

    But like Mrs McCrow has said I also want to look back when I'm older, and think damn i looked good back then.

    Its not just a treat to yourself but a treat for your H2B.

    Cost wise, i've decided to put money aside each month, so by the time of the shoot,its not going to be a huge hit on my finance.

    I've booked my shoot for June with Nicola Grimshaw-Mitchell.

    I'm so looking forward to it, with 3 months to go its also the added incentive for me to exercise more, lose some weight & get toned..... ooh la la image
  • bubblegum_pbubblegum_p Posts: 275
    Just to add to everyone else - go for it! I just did mine last week and was really nervous (you worry that maybe yours won't look great like everyone else's!) but it was fine, I was completely put at ease and the photographer was great at directing me into poses that are super uncomfortable but really flattering.

    Like Libranbride said, it's not just a gift for H2B, but for me as well - I've lost a lot of weight in the last 2 years and want to celebrate that!
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