Hello other Grooms,
I'm newly engaged and getting married in December 2014 and as someone who has never had a serious relationship let alone be engaged before, i'm completely out of my depth and looking for some advice! As someone who finds emotion quite hard in person when dealing with other people who arent my lovely wife to be, what better place to ask for help than behind my keyboard.
Now I grew up with a group of friends in a tight knit village community, there must be around 10 of us at least who hav always been best friends without really breaking off into small cliques. We come as a group, so to speak. Whilst I can select one of these as a Best Man wit the justification that we spent more time together than the others, I can not select 3 Ushers out of the remaining without the risk of offending or upsetting the others. I could literally select any 3 of the group, none step forward as definite selections whereas none fall out of the running.
Bit of a conundrum but has anyone been in this situation where they can't choose? What did you do, just got ruthless and picked 3, or perhaps drew straws so to speak? Maybe I'm just overthinking and worrying about causing any friction.
My mother did mention I could ask three of my male cousins to be ushers but the truth is I just dont like them! Guess it would prevent any issues with my friends though..