H2B not interested
I'm feeling so frustrated and a bit silly just now. My H2B and I have been together since we we 15/16 and he just proposed to me last May after 8 years together. I was delighted that we were now starting our adult lives together. I went through a phase of wanting to plan the wedding but thought I don't want to rush into doing it since it's not til 2016. We also planned on moving out of our parents houses which we did in April this year so that kept me occupied.
I'm the kind of person that needs some focus of something to plan, I love making lists and researching and organising things, so now 6 months in our house I'm feeling like I need to get started on this wedding planning. I really want to get the venue booked so that I can feel excited and start arranging but my H2B never wants to talk about the wedding at all. I feel like I'm constantly dropping little hints and mentioning things about the wedding just so that I can try and get a bit of conversation but he just ignores me. So when he finally does say something little about the wedding I jump at the opportunity to talk about it too and discuss booking it etc which results in him saying someone like "okay babe you've went on enough" which just puts me in a huff.
I've explained to him that once the venue is booked I'm happy to do most planning and organising and will just give him little tasks to do such as guest list kilts etc but when I mention booking it he just says he wants time to think about it. It's not like I want to get married this year! I want to get married in 2016! I'm now thinking is he just putting off this big commitment? He was exactly the same when we decided to move out - it was initially his idea to get the ball rolling but as soon as i was up for it he just backed off. I nagged him into finally going for a house because we kept bickering but I knew once we had moved in and had our own space he would love it - which he did.
Now he works most weekends so viewing venues, open days, wedding fayres etc have all been harder for him to come with me so I've just been going with my mum or MOH until I had narrowed places down. He had last weekend off so I convinced him to come to an open day at our chosen venue and he was smiling and taking photos of the set up and listening happily to the wedding co-ordinator so it was the same kind of thing i feel like he just needs a kick up the bum sometimes! When I spoke to him about it and told him it's making me feel like he doesn't want to get married he told me not to be silly he's the one that proposed and the pleasure is all his and that he just wants to take time to think. He said he is excited but I just overload him but I feel like I wouldn't bring it up so much if he would talk about it in the first place!
Im still no further forward in booking the venue though I just want to get sorted and he's so laid back I feel like if I leave him to decide in his own time I will never get an answer! (I obviously wouldn't book without his decision though)
Am I being too pushy or is he not ready or is this just to be expected of the male species ?