my moh cant attend anything, she says its due to childcare, but her husband sent a vile text asking me to stop asking her to things as everything revolves round lunch and drinks, he says she cant afford it, its him being controlling. we were meant to go to my dress fitting she couldn't go as bridal party were all going for drinks and lunch, same with a recent wedding fayre. problem is she doesn't know other bridesmaids and cant join in anything which will make it difficult on the day. iv invited her and her husband to mine with other members of bridal party, but she says she cant come as cant bring anything along, my friends always bring something which I dont expect but she said she would feel awkward not doing that. what should I do.