Torn with who to invite!
Okay so having a major issue with my 'day' guestlist.
I have a bad relationship with my dad. As far as bad goes, he lives the other side of the town (15 mins away) and has met my H2b twice & my 4 month old twice... my birthday was in march and seems the card got lost in the post 😂
Its fairly bad.
As regards the day list. i would like my aunt and uncle to be there, they have always been so supportive of me and my older sister. Always encouraged me to have a relationship with my dad until recent years as I explained exactly how bad it is.
Since i can Remember, my step mum has had an issue with my aunt. myself and my older sister have asked both my dad and step mum what the issue is with my aunt and uncle to which we both get told there is no issue. Which is crap..!!
My step mum was slagging my auntie off last year at a family friends 50th birthday (family friend will be at the evening reception) so this family friend asked her to stop to which My step mum ignored and carried on, and ended up getting a smack in the chops For it... deserved.
I used to have an amazing relationship with my two half sisters (My dad and step mums girls together) but I was told by the older of the two, she would make excuses for them not to come over etc... so I gave up after being told they were busy 100% of the time and now I barely speak to them.
My mum will be walking me down the isle as she has been there for me through thick and thin, 2 hard pregnancies, a relationship breakdown (past relationship) been a childminder to ensure I can go to work and have time out! I couldnt ask for a better mother, or nanna to my children. I have asked my step dad to do 'father of the bride' speech as he has been around since I was 3, and has always raised and loved me like his own. My mother and grandmother are also not best impressed that I am contemplating inviting my dad & step mum.
I am worried if I do invite him, it will cause tension with other people in the room, people who i would actually want there. My step mum is a snide little cow, she will critisize every last detail because im on a budget.
I have never ever felt anything but rejection from my dad, and my wedding day it's the one day about me. I just don't think his wife could put up with it not being about her, she would make it about her & no one would want to sit with them So could make my life hard with a seating plan!!
So it's either
1. shut up and have them there.
2.only invite my dad and little sisters Which will cause sooooo much trouble we will end up falling out and none of them coming.
3. Only invite them to the reception.
Please be honest... I'm so confused 😫
Thank you 💕