Proposal coming up for my birthday. Help!
So my boyfriend has accidentally spilled the beans that he will be proposing for my birthday, which is three days before Christmas. He doesn’t know that I know, but he has said a few things that have definitely confirmed it. He has gone through so much effort to plan it, and though it won’t be a complete surprise to me, I don’t want to say anything to him. (And I know I’ll still be surprised with how he does it, and where, and what the ring will look like, etc. - so it’s no big deal to me).
Without giving anything away, he one day asked if I would prefer a more “special gift” on Christmas or for my birthday. With them being only three days apart, I didn’t really care - but with Christmas already being so overwhelming as it is, I told him that I’d prefer it for my birthday (with it being so close to the holidays, it has often been forgotten by many, so I wanted it to be a little more special this year).
I was totally ecstatic when I found out I’d finally be getting proposed to by the man of my dreams (and again, it’s not set in stone, and he could change his mind of course, so this is all just speculation, but let’s just go with it...)
A few days ago, I came across an article online of a girl who was super ungrateful for being proposed to on her birthday. I thought it was totally ridiculous. If anything, I thought it would make a birthday that much more special! I was excited, so I decided to read other stories of birthday engagements, and it turns out, she wasn’t the only one upset about being proposed to on their birthday, or on a holiday. I just didn’t understand why someone could be upset about that. I decided to do more research, and found many, many articles saying that a man should not propose on a birthday or major holiday.
Reason being, those dates are already so special on their own. And that a birthday, or Christmas, or an engagment should be done separately, as they are all separate things to celebrate (and god forbid the relationship doesn’t work out, then that date is ruined for them going forward). The other thing people were upset about was the fact that the engagement ring was given to them as their actual birthday or christmas gift. Girls were upset that their man kind of ”killed two birds with one stone” and passed off the ring as their birthday/holiday present. Whereas if they would have gotten proposed to at any other time of the year, they would have had a separate birthday/holiday and engagment.
That was something that did kind of get me thinking (and obsessing over) the past few days. Until I read those articles the other day, I didn’t have a single issue with a birthday proposal. Now, I don't know what to think.
He got me a little gift the other day, and I told him to just hang onto it and give it to me for my birthday. He said that he can’t do that because what he got me for my birthday was very special and important, and that he didn't want anything to take away from it, and that he’s not going to give me any other gift than that one alone.
It got me thinking that it definitely must be the ring. And then it reminded me of those stories and it got me a little upset that he was combining my birthday with the engagement. People have always combined my birthday and Christmas gifts together, and it has always bothered me. The fact that my birthday and proposal are going to be combined (so I think) is a little upsetting.
Again, I had zero issue with this before a few days ago. Now I kind of do, ever since reading those stupid articles. Why did I read them? I’m not wanting or meaning to sound ungrateful, if I’m coming across that way. But how do I get past this? How can I be excited again, and not let those comments and articles get to me?
Please talk to me and let me know your thoughts.