Travelling guests - evening only?
we are having close family and friends for the ceremony and meal -total of 35 people. H2b is painfully shy and nervous and doesn't want too many people there. This is big progress for him and he initially only wanted us and two witnesses. The evening however is going to be a big do that everyone can come to.
I'm just feeling awkward about family members who will need to travel and only inviting them to the evening. I feel that it's not really reasonable to expect them to travel all that way and not come to the day. We are in the South of England and there are relatives in Durham and Wostershire - it's a good 5/6 hour drive.
Not sure what to do - Inviting these people would push the guest list up into the 40s and might cause h2b to explode and al might cause friction with other local relatives who are only invited to the evening.
what a minefield!