PLUS ONE DRAMA?
No drama REALLY - but just a question.
Myself and H2B have had our fair share of outrageous messages from people (brazenly asking where their wedding invite is - YES REALLY?)
But this time, it is something I am "umming and aah'ing" about.
We initially decided any friends who have partners who we have never met, can bring their partners to the evening but day time will be close family and friends only, unless said couple are married.
One of my cousins has sent me a message saying the following :
Hi Darling, I have been meaning to message you! I have found a new man! He is amazing, second of course to your hubby to be! I don't spose he can come???????? I need him!!! xxxxxx
I said to her to give me a call and we can have a chat about it - Keeping in mind she is a cousin of mine, we used to be close although she is over ten years my senior. - We are a close family but only see eachother at weddings, Birthdays etc. I thought I would let her know he can come to the evening.
She said she would call and never did - this was over a month ago and we have spoken since where she hasn't mentioned it again. I can see they are still together as they are posting photos on Facebook etc.
My argument is - I have never met the man, They have only been together a month or so and she has never had a great track record with Partners. I feel sorry because she has had a terrible year with health etc, and ALL the other cousins are married or have long term partners who we know - and of course are invited.
I know this sounds so mean, and I promise I did consider just letting her bring him- But I DO NOT want a man in my wedding, who will be gone in a year, or who I have never met.
What do people think? - She hasn't called me to discuss but she is such a "fly away" kind of person if that makes sense, and I can se her rocking up on the day with him on her arm, and no where for him top sit on the seating plan.
( Just to add a bit of history, we aren't having children at our wedding and she has already sent me a message a few months ago saying she is GUTTED her daughters cant come - I had to explain it was only cousins invited as they all have 2 or more kids.)