My mum would like me to ask my younger cousin to be bridesmaid. she is only 12 years of age and i only see her once a year. i dont want to upset any of the family and would do anything for a quiet life. do you think she is too old to be flower girl? i feel she is too young to be bridesmaid. should i ask her to be flower girl and if she finds it too embarrassing then what??? would i have to promote her to be bridesmaid? i feel its flower girl or nothing. am i being too harsh???