Chief Bridesmaid Needs Your Help!
My best friends wedding is on June 28 and I'm honoured to be her Chief Bridesmaid, though I'm having a few problems!
My friend has been very involved in the organising of the Hen Night, which is fine, as I know she's getting what she wants this way. However, planning surprises for her has been quite difficult! For example, the other day she casually said 'Do you think we should decorate the apartment?' - this is something I was planning to do in advance of our arrival, so it would be a surprise for her when we got there!
I'm having trouble with the few surprises I have organised for her also. One thing I'm doing is gift bags for everyone in attendance. With the hen, of course I'm putting a few extras in! But generally it's about £8.00 for the contents of each bag (14 girls attending). I've still to buy the actual bags (nightmare finding neon bags - theme is 80s). But the hen has since added two people and invited another! It's costing more and more because I'm paying again for delivery, and of course for the items themselves. I'm also making bags for people who are only coming to part of the hen night (the bride wanted to give people the option to come later/not stay over etc.).
She also mentioned sashes yesterday - I was planning on getting her a lovely 'Bride to Be' sash but I've just found out she's wanting sashes for everyone. This is coming to an extra £30.00...I can't blame the bride for asking for this little thing, but she doesn't know how much I'm already spending! (the only other bridesmaid is 12, and we had enough trouble getting people to come for the cost of the hen night, so am pretty sure they won't chip in for anything else - we had to take out an 80's dance class from the itinerary because people thought it was all too expensive). I've also ordered her a limo to take us from her aunts house through to the apartment in Edinburgh (her two aunts and fiancé are chipping in with me for this).
It's costing £350 to stay overnight in the hotel she's having her wedding in (it's not local, and the bride is SO eager to have people stay at the actual hotel - her family aren't so I feel obliged to stay. She has these wonderful visions of us all sitting down for breakfast the day after the wedding). I've still to buy decorations for the apartment, nibbles and drinks for everyone arriving. I've still to buy her veil/L plates etc. The hen night itself is £76 (not including dinner or drinks) I'm making a photo book full of pictures of her when she was younger and with her friends, with lovely messages in it too. But it's all adding up...
I don't know what to do, I don't want to ruin any surprises (because it's been hard arranging them in the first place) but I don't know how much longer I can afford to keep adding people in and buying things she has her heart set on! I want her day to be amazing, and feel selfish posting my frustrations but I don't know what to do?! Do I mention to her if she asks for anything else that I don't have much more of a budget?
The last issue I'm having is to do with my bridesmaid dress fitting. I've been trying really hard to lose weight for the fitting (not just the fitting, I really need to lose weight anyway!) but it's 2 months before the actual wedding and my friend says I'll need to stay the same weight for those 2 months...I feel stuck as I don't want to stay the same weight. I'm paying for the gym and it's time where I could be shedding lbs! I want to feel good for the wedding but my friend doesn't seem to want me to lose any weight, and keeps saying things like 'I don't mind how you look!' Am I being selfish wanting to lose a little more? I'd be happy to pay for a fitting nearer the time, but don't like to mention that as recently she was talking about the co