After 5 years and 1 baby together, we've finally decided to get married, I thought this decision would be the hard part but I was so wrong.
I started looking in to venues shortly after we got engaged, my parents are giving us £4000 - £5000 assistance with the costs and because we have so little savings I made this my bench mark for venue cost, including catering and all the trimmings, My nan has said she will pay for my dress and the guys will arrange their suits. I'm also only having 1 bridesmaid and 2 flower girls.
We decided to keep the number of day guests to a minimum as we only wanted those closest to us to witness our marriage, then we'd have a party for everyone else.
I must have looked in to well over 50 venues in my area now (Derbyshire). They're either too far away for people to get to, or way over budget.
We just wanted something so simple, pie and peas for the wedding breakfast and a hogroast in the evening. I looked at a local village hall, who would arrange to have a marquee lining to cover the walls and roof, which I thought was perfect and right up my street. But my mother-in-law to be saw the quote and said it would be far too much for what we were getting, especially when we would have to clear up ourselves (or as she put it 'I hope you aren't expecting me to tidy up after!' please bear in mind they aren't contributing a penny)
So now i'm doing what i didn't want to do and going round venue after venue, in search of my second best. All I wanted was something as simple as a marquee in a field, where the kids could run free and entertain themselves and we could have a game of rounders after getting married in the local registry office.
I feel so deflated from it all and the fun just seems to be sucked out of it. I'm fed up of looking through other peoples versions of menus trying to decide on a choice I won't eat and the only comments I seem to be getting from H2B's family is that we should just go to the registry office and have big party, well i tried that and they weren't content with that either!!
Sorry for the moan but its only ever other brides that understand