Is it normal to change our minds this much?
So we are in the very early stages of planning our wedding.
Initially when we started planned we LOVED (and still do love) the idea of a Nintendo themed wedding. My Foster dad has offered us £10k for our wedding and this sounded great, but since then our landlord as announced they want to sell our rented house, so we are instead using the money towards our deposit to buy the house.
My partner has been quite firm in saying he wants a church wedding, he feels it is important to us as a couple, I never saw myself in a church but it is something I am willing to do for us (it's our wedding not just my wedding after all).
We had everything semi planned out so that we could work towards a budget and how much we need to save, we both agree we want this to be a budget wedding as the house has eaten our savings and we had agreed on the local church In Cambrigeshire and then we were still in discussions about either an "I DO BBQ" at home or a reception in the small hotel over the road from the church (still walking distance from home). HOWEVER he has now altered it again and wants to get married in Grimsby where he was brought up in the church where his parents got married, he wants to do this and invite all his family including many I have never met and then have a reception in Grimsby/Cleethorpes & still have the I DO BBQ in Cambridgeshire...possibly the day after?
In all honesty I don't mind where we get married as long as we do, but I thought it was meant to be the brides going all Bridezilla and changing their mind lol? I'm a bit concerned that some people will want to come to both receptions and that this won't be as low cost as we had planned...
Is it acceptable after a church wedding with family to invite them to a hotel and just offer them afternoon tea and a couple drinks for toasts? It will only be for a couple of hours max, and then we will probably head home to Cambridgeshire. Is this enough? We have a few friends from Cambridgeshire who will want to see the actual ceremony too... is this a bit naff and will it be a big let down?
Oh another thing... is a 17 minute drive between the church and the hotel to much? There is a closer hotel but in all honesty I quite like the idea of having afternoon tea in a Cleethorpes hotel which is on the 'sea' front and then we have the opportunity to have photos on the beach too... I just don't know though... I knew weddings were complicated to organised but I feel like this is all getting too complicated.
Sorry for babbling, it seems to be all I am thinking about lately and its stressing me out lol.