what is the "wedding tradition" you heard about only after you started wedding
I think for me the strangest one that i have heard was that breaking ribbons on shower gifts signifies how many children you will have... I have always known to put a big bow on everything, but i never in a million years thought there was a children relation to ribbons on the packaging!
we did not follow this at all, we have a BBQ rather than a shower and due to a fairly small registry we got mostly gift cards and honeymoon excursions (a surprising number of people contacted our travel agent to help us pay for extras!) so there was no bow bouquet and no baby ribbons.
Now something I thought was a tradition but it is apparently just something I was taught / maybe people in the midwest in general? But i grew up with "if you know the wedding colors, do not wear the wedding colors, this will ensure you arent dressed like a bridesmaid" Now i say that maybe i was taught this because my mom showed up at a wedding years ago (i was the flower girl) in the exact same dress as the bridesmaids (it was an off the rack dress from JCPenny, it wasnt as if she went to a bridal store and this snafu occurred) But my FMIL, after being asked specifically to not wear burgundy chiffon as thats what the bridesmaids are wearing.... sent me a burgundy chiffon dress to see what i thought - i was upset since it was the exact dress i said not to get, and rather than say something mean asked FH to handle it, and he asked her to get the dress in the different color. Fortunately it also came in navy and she looks gorgeous.
But because of that incident i learned that many of my bridal party members had never heard to not wear the wedding colors to the wedding as a woman - many of them had never even heard that you shouldnt wear a white (ish) dress to a wedding either!
That are your tradition stories!
For reference I am located in the Chicago Suburbs, but have attended weddings in multiple states as I went to college on the East coast and my friends are scattered over the country. FILs are from the east coast, specifically south of NYC.
Please be polite to other posters. There is no right or wrong tradition, this is not about bashing other people traditions just a nice discussion / learning experience about traditions we might not all have known about, or things we assumed were the norm but are not the norm everywhere