Is it normal to feel really sad about losing my last name?
This could just be hormones but I feel really sad today thinking about how I’m going to lose my last name.
I’m going to take my fiancé’s surname because I like it and I like the idea of us having the same last name. I don’t want hyphenated and I don’t really want him to take mine so I’m not asking for advice on whether I should or shouldn’t.
I have three brothers (who I’m extremely close with) and my parents are divorced. None of us have a relationship with my father which is fine. When my parents divorced 20 years ago, my mom kept his surname as I think she wanted to have the same last name as her children. She re-married and took my stepdads last name about 3 years ago.
For some reason I just feel really sad I’m not going to have the same last name as my brothers anymore. It didn’t particularly bother me when my mom changed hers but I have really fond memories of growing up as a close family unit despite the fact we were abandoned by my dad. I don’t even associate our last name with my dad but definitely see it as a bond with my mom and brothers. Kinda like me, my siblings and my mom are “The (my surname)”. Two of my three brothers have kids that also share my current surname and for some dumb reason I feel like I’m losing a tie to my nieces and nephews too.
Even more confusing is that there’s a part of me that’s so excited to become Mrs “FH surname” yet at the same time I feel a little bit heartbroken about having to change it.
I know this is dumb but is anyone else feeling so conflicted?!