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  • MaiaukMaiauk Posts: 71
    Hi



    Vanessa and I are here ready to answer all your planning questions!



    Maia & Vanessa
  • clareshaunclareshaun Posts: 699
    hi there



    ive got a meeting with my florist soon to discuss my centrepieces and im abit stuck for ideas as to what to put on the top table which will be a long table.

    any ideas what be great?



    thanks

    clare

    xx
  • MrsDunsmore2006MrsDunsmore2006 Posts: 2,061
    Hi there,



    I'm having my reception in restored Victorian country house. As part of our package, the venue are providing us with 5-arm silver candlabras for each table. I'm planning on getting chair covers and sashes, but I was just wondering if you had any ideas on how to jazz up my tables, as I was at a wedding recently where they also had candlabra centrepieces, and it was a bit plain-looking for my tastes! Also, would it look stupid if I had something completely different for the head table instead of the centrepieces we're having elsewhere?



    Thanks in advance!
  • Hi i am pretty organised for the wedding, however we would like to have an aisle runner, we are getting married in a conservatory and would like the flower girls to drop petals, therefore an ivory aisle runner would be perfect. Any idea where i could source one??



    Also we are having a chocolate theme for the wedding and have no idea what to do for table names and table plan?? Any chocolate ideas are welcome from anyone thank you

    [Modified by: Mrsforsythtobe on May 06, 2008 04:10 PM]
  • debronukdebronuk Posts: 379
    Hello - what's your view on guests being bored? I get really worried that people won't enjoy my big day (and I'll be too self absorbed to notice!). Alot of our guests are travelling far to be here, so our thoughts are:



    Friday night - Welcome drinks

    Sat morning - Some kind of activity

    Sat 2pm wedding

    4pm drinks

    6pm dinner (not too worried after this point).



    Perhaps I've gone into too much detail, but I can't be the only one out there that's worried about this.



    Thanks for any advice!
  • MaiaukMaiauk Posts: 71

    Hi Clare



    The traditional display for a top table is a single centrepiece right in the middle, but if you're after something a bit different what about having a floral garland that runs along the front of the table? Or a long low displays that runs the length of the tabletop?



    A great budget option is to have three low vases on the table that you and your maids can put your bouquets in.



    Alternatively, you could have small tree placed on the floor at either end of a long table (these can also double-up as great flowers for your ceremony).



    I would suggest keeping the displays low as your guests will want to see you and you'll want to be able to see them!



    Hope that helps,



    Maia









  • Hi Debron,

    I think your guests may not have time for morning activity if wedding is at 2pm, i think all the ladies will be getting ready and the men will probably watch telly in their hotel rooms?

    I have booked a close up magician though to keep everyone entertained after the ceremony and inbetween courses at then meal
  • clareshaunclareshaun Posts: 699
    thanks

    thats what i was worried about, with the table being long i dont want it to be to over powered.

    ive got no idea as what to use as table names? as dont just want the tables numbered.

    xx
  • MaiaukMaiauk Posts: 71

    Hi Debron



    You don't say whether your ceremony and your reception are at the same place. If they're not then I think your timetable looks fine so far. A civil ceremony lasts approx 30mins but a religious ceremony lasts approx 40mins to an hour. Then you need to allow time for lots of faffing about and guests getting themselves to the ceremony. So drinks at 4pm followed by dinner at six is perfect.



    If your ceremony and reception are in the same place then you might want to think about bringing your drinks forward slightly and providing some kinds of activities - maybe games outside like giant jenga, croquet or Connect Four? Or for a winter wedding maybe a casino set up that guests could also return to after dinner? Simple things like boxes of wedding trivia questions (available from Confetti) placed on the tables will help to pass the time.



    Don't worry to much about them being bored though, you want to allow plenty of time for each part of the day (it would be worse to rush people through everything). And don't underestimate how happy people will be just chatting, mingling and having a welcome drink - two hours will be about right and give you time to have your photos taken too!



    Maia
  • nessgorenessgore Posts: 161
    Hi Mrs D to be,



    To make your tables look less plain: 1. Think about adding extra low votives with tealights, the mix of heigh and low lights will make it look interesting. 2. Scatter fresh petals around the candelabra and around the plates. 3. Accessorize the candelabras with fresh flowers or even dangle or tie ribbon around the base.



    Don't worry about making the top table different, as long as the colours fit in, it will look pretty and make that table stand out. Again play with the heights, low floral centrepieces for the top table (which can be trailing down too if you wish) and heigh centrepieces on the other tables will look stunning and create contrast and interest as a whole. When you and your guests enter the room they'll be a wow factor.



    Good luck,



    Vanessa
  • MrsSpenceMrsSpence Posts: 689
    Hello,

    Just looking for some advice, i have only recently booked my wedding for next May, i havnt booked anything yet, i just want to be reassured i have enough time to do everything and what are the best things to do first. :\?



    Thanx
  • MaiaukMaiauk Posts: 71
    Hi Clare



    You could call your tables almost anything you like -



    Places you and your fiance have been on holiday

    Places you've lived

    Favourite films/books/TV shows/quotes from poems or films

    Favourite foods/types of champagne

    Favourite works of art

    If you have a theme, for example 'sweets', then name all your tables after sweets you like



    I would suggest not giving them numbers, just because you might have the odd tricky guest who thinks it's a hierachy, eg. that Table 1 is for all your 'favourite' people and 'Table 10' where they're sitting is way down the list!



    Maia
  • stubbsy4ukstubbsy4uk Posts: 110
    Hi

    I wondered if you had some ideas for "cheap but nice" favours - or even if you think they are necessary? I am having 100 guests to my day do and even if favours only cost £1 that is still an extra cost! Will people think I am just tight if I don't provide them?
  • stubbsy4ukstubbsy4uk Posts: 110
    Hi

    I wondered if you had some ideas for "cheap but nice" favours - or even if you think they are necessary? I am having 100 guests to my day do and even if favours only cost £1 that is still an extra cost! Will people think I am just tight if I don't provide them?
  • nessgorenessgore Posts: 161
    Dear Mrs Forsythe to be,



    There are two companies in the US from where you can source runners from: www.originalrunners.com and www.theweddingoutlet.com.



    In the UK, think about using a roll of wallpaper in ivory from DIY store Homebase.



    As for chocolate themed table numbers how about: Godiva, Leonidas, Lindt, Thorntons, Melt, The chocolate society, White, Milk, 100% dark, Montezuma, Hotel Chocolat. These are all names of chocolate companies or types of chocolate that I know of. What do you think?



    I hope this helps.



    Vanessa



  • clareshaunclareshaun Posts: 699
    yes thats why i didnt want to use numbers, you know how touchy people can be lol.

    thanks for your advise

    xx
  • tbaldwinjtbaldwinj Posts: 4

    I recently looked round the marquee where we are having our reception and there will be quite a lot of 'bare corners' as it can potentially accomodate double the numbers we have. Our table decorations are goldfish bowl vases with bear grass & church candles and the colour scheme is sage/ natural pale green and white/cream with an ivy theme. The poles in the marquee are really high & so dressing those up may be a bit too costly. We're getting chair covers with sage green organza ribbons. Anything else you suggest to dress things up? A proffessional balloon company was a thought.... Suggestions needed!image

  • jolie1000jolie1000 Posts: 21
    Hi Vanessa and Maia



    We are having our civil ceremony in a stately home and the room is long, with dark red walls and carpets, and has chandeliers. I would have loved the ceremony to be outside (but I'm too afraid of relying on British weather!) or in a grand airy room with neutral decoration and high-ceilings, but this is not either. I thought we could make it more romantic by closing the shutters and placing tall candle sticks down the aisle, but am worried this glow may be a problem for photographs. If you don't think this is a problem, where can I source cheap tall candle sticks and an aisle runner? If you think it would be a problem, what kind of lighting would you suggest?



    Thank you!
  • debronukdebronuk Posts: 379
    What about naming them after posh choc shops: Godiva, Hotel Chocolate etc and then doing favours from those places? Or Lower budget, do Dairy Milk etc. Or do Green and Blacks flavours and then get those mini bars - yum!

  • MaiaukMaiauk Posts: 71

    Hi MrsSpence2B



    Don't panic just yet, you still have plenty of time. You sound like you've booked your venue and hopefully your ceremony venue (unless they're the same place) too. They're the first things on the list, as well as getting an idea of budget too and how many guests you're thinking of inviting. Make sure you also have your registrar confirmed if you're having a civil ceremony.



    After those you can relax a little bit! I'd say the next thing to look at would be a photographer (as the good ones get booked up) and start thinking about your dress too. It'd be good to start thinking about other suppliers like caterers, stationery, florist too and arrange a few meetings.



    You still have lots of time though, and I always think that getting the venue sorted is the most important. After that things just start falling into place.



    Good luck with it all!



    Maia



  • We have made our own favours we made chocolate bars with personalised labels, they look a bit like the galaxy wrapper, i wanted to do our favourite chocolate, or places we have travelled to as we travel alot, but i didn't want it to look to cheesy with our pics all over the place
  • nessgorenessgore Posts: 161
    Mrs Williams2009,



    I don't think that people will mind not having favours. The average bride doesn't spend more than £2 on her favours, but I think you could do without (the guys aren't fussed really). If you feel the place settings are just too bare, think about folding your napkins in an unusual way or tying a thin piece of coloured ribbon around napkins rolled up.



    Cheap favour ideas include: lotto ticket in a coloured envelope, single chocolates in a small box, fudge in buckets (go to confetti for this) or just place a rose head at each of the girl's place and skip the boys.



    I hope this helps,



    Vanessa
  • MrsSpenceMrsSpence Posts: 689
    Thank You Maia



    Yes its all in the one place, and i have emailed my venue to see if they can recommend a registrar, So its all go now. xx
  • MaiaukMaiauk Posts: 71

    Hi Missy B



    I recently saw a real wedding where the couple had dressed up their marquee poles by winding coloured ribbon all the way up them (although I'm not sure how they did this - I guess they had help!).



    What about also getting a few cheap lanterns from Ikea, and hanging them in some of the corners where the ceiling is lower? Or place glass storm lanterns on the floor with candles in them? Other nice decorative touches that aren't too expensive are maybe strings of bunting around the walls or strings of pretty fairy lights/chains of small lanterns.



    I wouldn't worry to much though, as once your guests are sitting down and concentrating on their food and the tables they won't be looking at the darker corners of the marquee.



    Hope that helps,



    Maia







    [Modified by: Features Ed on May 06, 2008 04:48 PM]
  • nessgorenessgore Posts: 161
    Hi Bewitched,



    You can source aisle runners from two places in the US: www.originalrunners.com and www.theweddingoutlet.com.

    Alternatively, you can source a roll of ivory or white wallpaper at your local Homebase store. This light runner will contrast the red walls and make the room look lighter.



    Don't worry about the photographer, he'll make the pictures work no matter what the lighting. If you however don't want darkish wedding pictures, you may need to rethink your venue.



    For buying cheap candle sticks, head down to the Covent Garden flower market where you'll find a treasure trove of sticks and candles. Go to www.cgma.gov.uk for opening times. Or think about hiring them from Theme traders (www.themetraders.com).



    I hope your day goes the way you want it to go,



    Vanessa
  • MaiaukMaiauk Posts: 71
    Hi MrsSpence2B



    Just one more thing - I'd get your registrar booked as quickly as possible if you've already got the venue confirmed.



    You have to have a registrar from the local registry office for your venue. If there isn't one available on your chosen date you won't be allowed to get one from another county, and may have to change to another day.



    I'd give your venue a call ASAP and get the details for their local registry office.



    Maia









  • EmlarEmlar Posts: 1,581
    hello!

    we get married in march nxt yr. i have quite alot sorted already - we have suits, rings, cakes and then jewelley, make up, shoes, accessories left. everything else is pretty much booked.



    what do you think i should do next? cake before suits? or rings next? i know we have a while left yet, so can i afford to just leave everything? if s, when should i order cake/rings/suits?



    sorry, loads of questions! haha, thanks
  • MaiaukMaiauk Posts: 71

    Hi Mrs Harrison2B



    I think you've got plenty of time so you could take it easy for a while! Vanessa recommends ordering your cake 2 months before the wedding and for suits it really depends on whether you're having them made (allow two months) or hiring them (probably get them chosen and booked at least a month before).



    Most rings will need to be resized to fit you, so if you're having them made from scratch probably three months and at least two months to have them resized. If you're at all worried then it can't hurt to start arranging these things now but you don't need to panic.



    Best,



    Maia
  • EmlarEmlar Posts: 1,581
    thanks, think i will take it easy then - enjoy the summer and then get back into things!
  • vics8vics8 Posts: 1,873
    Hi Maia & Vanessa,



    I'm getting married on the 20th December and am having a winter wonderland/narnia theme for our day.



    We are having a few problems trying to find "props" to dress our ceremony and reception areas (as is our wedding planner) and was wondering whether you could steer me in the right direction?



    We're looking for trees (silver birch like, not topiary) to hire so to recreate the cover on one of Preston Baileys books and also and small hanging tealight holders.



    Any ideas?



    Thanks for your help



    Vicky
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