What's more important- the marriage or the wedding day?You say that you would've 'gotten in to debt if you had to' in order to buy an engagement ring and it seems as though you think there are a lot of other things you have to have on the wedding day too. You don't have to have them, and if you can't afford them you can't have them! It's lovely that you want to give your B2B the best day of her life, but there are many people on this forum (me included) who've had to scale down their vision and aren't getting help from their parents either. You're not automatically entitled to a fairytale wedding! Your fiancee was aware of your financial situation when she said 'yes'. I suggest you have the wedding you can afford now, or save up for the wedding you want in a few years time. I'm sorry, but I'd rather donate my hard-earned money to a worthier cause, like a charity for instance.
What a con, hopefully nobody falls for this and parts with their hard earned money for this idiot.