HELP! My friend's hen do will leave my family in debt!
So, one of my closest friends is having a hen do abroad. She is from a wealthy family and all her other friends are too, so they don't mind about the costs that are involved in this lush weekend. First of all there is a flight, plus villa (£100 a night - and my friend just booked it and landed it upon us, like 'Here is the link to the villa I booked, it's £100, hope okay with everyone). Plus there are costs of food, drinks, etc. I saved up, worked extra, and saved for all of that, with a bit of my husband's help as well. I actually started getting excited about it - I've never been to the island where we are going, it's a new experience, blahablahblah, all the positive self talk, and stopped thinking about all the money I'm spending to go there.
However, this morning there is a message from the bride in our chat group, to say she wants to go to this pool party, and the tickets are 250 euro per person, again - 'hope okay with everyone' A couple of people have already responded saying 'Yes, let's do it!' I on the other hand just want to scream!!! If I spend this much I will definitely be in debt, and I shouldn't have to be because my friend decided to get married! See, I'm getting all nasty and negative here, but it's hard not to, when she isn't even paying for our bridesmaids dresses (by the way, is it a thing - to pay for your bridesmaids dresses? Or is it just me?) Anyway, I would never ask anyone to spend this amount of money for a trip. I've already booked my flights and now I'm stuck with this extra huge spending, what do I do ladies...? What's the best way to say it? I don't want to be a party pooper and be the only one who says no to this...but I really can't afford it.